October 15, 2014
Wednesday morning I was on my way home from grocery shopping (actually, I was only a few blocks away) when I got a phone call from a neighbor. She was pretty hysterical but calmed down enough to tell me there had been a horrible accident in our neighborhood -- a little girl had been struck by a car. She had already called the Bishop, who was on his way to the hospital, and she told me the EMT had told her that it looked "really bad" and to call the Bishop and Relief Society President.
When I pulled into my driveway I had a bunch of neighbors run over to ask me what had happened. I didn't have any details other than the name of the little girl and that they were on their way to the hospital. I sent a text to the Bishop and he told me he would let me know of the situation when he could.
I immediately sent a text and email to all the women in the ward asking them to stop and say a little prayer for the family. Then we all waited. At about noon I received a text from Bishop telling me that Natalie Petersen had passed away and the funeral would be on Saturday. He asked me to send a text and email out informing everyone of her death. I don't like that part of my calling. I really don't like being the one to give people bad news. It has happened too often for my liking.
Immediately there were tons of texts back asking me for detail but I didn't know any. A little bit later one of the sisters in our ward sent me a link to an online news article that explained that Natalie was accidentally run over by her dad and had died of the injuries.
Bishop called me and talked over what needed to be done for the family. They would be staying with some family in town and so we set up meal to be taken to them at that home. I also began working on the luncheon. I am always amazed (and I shouldn't be by now) at how absolutely wonderful our neighborhood and ward are. Within 30 minutes of the text saying Natalie had passed away, the family's house was being cleaned (by a neighbor not of our faith), the dogs were being cared for, the younger children in the family were being watched, and dozen of offers had come in to help with their older children. It was amazing!
But it didn't stop there..
October 16, 2014
I woke up on Thursday with a ton of emails and texts from women in the ward wanting to do something. A bunch of the mom's friends had begun putting pink ribbons around the neighborhood to honor Natalie. They asked if I would get the word out that they would be putting more ribbons up that afternoon. When Courtney and I arrived to help (it was Fall Break so the kids were all out of school), there were about 20-25 women/girls/boys helping to cut ribbons and tie them on anything and everything in the neighborhood.
While we were tying up ribbons the Bishop called me to let me know that the mortuary had donated the entire funeral, down to the casket. I was amazed. When I hung up from talking to him I got a call from a casket maker in Orderville asking if they could donate the casket for the family. I told them it had already been taken care of but thanked them for their offer.
When I had hung up from talking to them I got a text from the Bishop telling me that Hurst (a local hardware store) had donated 600 pink light bulbs for the neighborhood so we could show our support for the family. I quickly sent out an email and a text letting the members know they could pick up the pink light bulbs that night and to spread the word. That night our neighborhood looked amazing.
October 17, 2014
I worked on the funeral luncheon and getting women to sign up to bring salads, desserts and funeral potatoes. I also asked for volunteers to serve and help setup and clean up. It was amazing how many people signed up. I use Google Docs for my sign up sheets and usually when all the lines are filled people just say "oh well, I'll try next time to help." This time when the lines were filled people made new lines So we ended up with a lot of food but it was good because we would just send it home with the family.
We drove by the Church that night and saw people setting up for the funeral so we stopped to help. All the women in the ward who were friends with the family were setting up pictures, toys, and other things to help honor Natalie. The mom was so distraught and her friends wanted to have a nice funeral for her so she could say goodbye to her daughter. They did an amazing job decorating and putting pictures of the family everywhere. I stayed for a while but there were so many people to help that I felt in the way. They were there until around midnight getting things ready.
October 18, 2014
It was a crazy day. I got a call at 8 a.m. asking where I was because there were women ready to set up. I had asked them to show up at 8:30 but I hurried and finished getting ready and ran to the Church. Bryan had loaded the van with what I needed while I got ready and so, at the Church, we unloaded the van and did what we could to get ready. I had to run to the Temple for Leigh Ann's sealing so I left things in capable hands.
We finished up and were back to the Church at 10:30. The viewing was from 9:00 to 10:30 a.m. and it was still really packed when we showed up. The mom was having a really hard time (as could be expected) so the line was taking a long time. Our kids saved us seats while we waited in line. The funeral was supposed to start at 11 a.m. but the line was so long and they took their time closing the casket so the family could say goodbye, so the funeral started a little over an hour late. But it was a very good funeral with a lot of good stories of her and hope from the family. Funerals are always hard but much more so when it's a child or an unexpected death.
When the funeral finished and the family had gone to the cemetery a ton of people from the Ward stayed and helped get things ready for the luncheon. I am really Type A so I have checklists for people to follow so they know what needs to be done and what has already been done. That way I don't have to answer a ton of questions. I also leave a lot of things up to the discretion of people who are helping. For example, one woman put the plastic ware in cups so people could just grab a fork when they went by. Another sister thought that was too unsanitary so she asked if she could just lay them down on a plate. I told her that I didn't care and she could do what she wanted...and I really didn't care. I was just happy that someone had put out the plastic ware. I think I shock some people because they expect me to have an\ strong opinion but I really don't mind if we do it differently because I appreciate the help and want them to know that I value them. I have been in the situation where I have volunteered to help and felt like everything I did was wrong. So I don't want to make people feel that way.
The luncheon went really well with the family all very appreciative of the work the Ward had put into it. We had about 10-12 dozen cookies left over, 3 funeral potato dishes, 2 huge salads, 3 dozen rolls and a bunch of ham. So we sent it all home with the family so they wouldn't have to worry about food for a while.
Then we all cleaned up, I washed the table cloths and now I just have to get the dishes back to people. It was a rough week.
The pink lights are staying up until Natalie's birthday on November 11th. Every year our neighborhood is going to put up the pink lights on November 11th to remember her. I am so grateful for where we live and the wonderful people in our community!